Easy Orgasm Blog

People often consider masturbation a taboo subject. Religious groups frown upon it, people in relationships feel guilty even thinking about it, others just sometimes feel ashamed. But when it comes to it, it is a completely natural urge, it provides pleasure to yourself and it helps you to find out what you like and don’t like, thus aiding you in bed when it comes to guiding a lover. This is especially helpful if you have trouble achieving orgasm. Unless you know yourself you can’t expect your lover to magically know how to make you cum.

As adolescents, laws prohibit teens from engaging in sexual intercourse, and so masturbation provides an outlet for hormonal impulses and feelings while also teaching them about their own bodies. As adults, people continue to engage in masturbation for the same pleasure – as a joint, intimate activity with a partner or for some, to reach orgasm when sex does not result in climax. Many women have never and are simply not able to reach orgasm during sex with a partner and so masturbation is the only way in which to pleasure themselves. Others may do it to reach a different type of orgasm – if intercourse only provides a G-spot orgasm then they may masturbate for clitoral stimulation or vice versa.

When the hormones surge and a woman finds herself aroused and alone, masturbation may be the answer. Whether in bed or in the bath tub or even in the car while sitting in traffic (if the opportunity should present itself!) self satisfaction can prove to be more than just an orgasm. This release of energy can calm nerves, relieve stress, and perhaps save a relationship if a couple finds themselves apart for a period of time – thus evading the need for sex with other people.

Masturbating while apart, can bring a couple closer. Partners on business trips or similar can always engage in phone sex with each other, or ‘mail sex’ – via the post. A much slower form of communication, but if one pleasures themselves upon each detailed and lustful letter, then absence can make the heart grow fonder! The build up while waiting for each other’s letters will heighten the pleasure.

But if sex is not getting any results and you need the release of sexual energy, then solo sex may help you to find the missing link. By experimenting with your own hands or the use of sex toys, you can find out how exactly to push your own buttons! Toys, particularly dildos and vibrators, can aid in the discovery of a G-spot orgasm. Other vibrators are designed for clitoral stimulation – the easiest and usually quickest way for a woman to climax – or failing that, your own finger work just as good!

As a result of the ‘taboo’ and general privacy surrounding masturbation, some find it difficult and embarrassing to masturbate in front of or with a partner. The feeling of being watched and ‘evaluated’ as you go about the deed on your own can sometimes cause people distraction from the point and feel self conscious. The trick is to help each other. During foreplay, guide a partners hand in doing what you would do to yourself, while you do the same to them at the same time. Alternatively, you can hog the attention! While they play with you, guide them to the right places, and as the pleasure overtakes you, use your own hand to pleasure yourself as well. You may find that before you know it, you’ll be so into doing what you’re doing, you won’t notice that your partner stops and instead becomes enthralled in watching (and learning) about you, and probably joining in themselves. In doing this, the embarrassment and reservations will disappear and you can both enjoy the wonders of masturbation together!