Easy Orgasm Blog

For some women, faking an orgasm during sex is as close as they can get to experiencing a climax during intercourse. This is because some find it very difficult to reach their peak while with another person, or indeed even alone. However, some women fake an orgasm for a number of different reasons; to get sex over with when they’re not really in the mood, to make their partner feel better if they felt they couldn’t climax this time, or maybe even because they are not attracted to whom they are with, but don’t wish to broach the subject.

But under any circumstances, is faking it, really a good idea? First and foremost, it is dishonest, and at a time when each person is at their most intimate and vulnerable. This act may not seem all to major to some, but it leads to discontentment and a subtle dislike of sex, particularly if one finds it difficult to peak every time. Lying about it will not resolve anything because your partner will not know any different.

If you are honest about not being able to orgasm, then you and your partner can work together at figuring out how to bring you pleasure during sex. This can be done in a gentle way too – without just blurting out that you never orgasm! This would only hurt their feelings and ruin the mood somewhat! So approach the subject tenderly, and be ready with your suggestions in place that your partner can do to make you orgasm, even if this only involves some mutual masturbation. Every relationship needs intimacy to survive on that level, and interaction by one another is the key to a healthy sex life. It may be best to discover the ways you orgasm best by yourself, and then introduce them into your bedroom life. This way, your partner will not feel at a loss and confused as to where to start.

Having intercourse to allow your partner to orgasm is a great way to begin the process of pleasuring each other, but make sure your partner is aware that you might not orgasm, therefore you may like some oral simulation, before or after, masturbation, implement the use of sex toys – whatever it is that will allow you to enjoy yourself.

Some people are quite content to please their partner when they cannot orgasm, and this is good particularly if the mood does not take them now and again. But to only have sex to please your partner is not entirely healthy. It allows a one sided pleasure, and will eventually result in resentment and the making of excuses to avoid sex.

So is it ever alright to fake an orgasm? The only time it might be alright, is on a one night stand where you really don’t feel it is going to happen, but you don’t plan on seeing this person again! It may get the job done if you are eager to get out of there, and it will avoid hurting their feelings at that time. But beware – many men can tell when a woman really orgasms. He feels the vaginal muscles contacting, the pupils dilate, the chest and neck often flushes pink, the nipples harden… These things are mostly out of the control of a woman, so if your partner knows what he is looking for, he will know if you are faking it!